Halloween can be the scariest holiday when you are trying to conceive or, worse if you’ve recently experienced a loss like an early miscarriage. With other holidays you can somewhat control how much child and happy families you intake. But Halloween sends every child in town, dressed up and needing to be adored, right to your door. Your house will be under siege.
Brace yourself. Kids just want candy. So we give you permission to turn out the lights and put a bowl on the porch.
Here are a few more suggestions to get through the tricky night.
- Go Out! What’s the one thing you can’t do when pregnant or a new parent? Party! So don a costume and go have fun with adults. Halloween is a night of dressing up and being silly. Gather a friend or two and enjoy not being a parent. Life is short and there’s no better day to celebrate the joy of living than Halloween night.
- Dress up your Pet! People love a dog in costume almost more than a cute baby. If you are forced to be around moms and children, dote on your fur baby and make them the center of attention.
- Treat Yourself. Sugar will be everywhere so why not pick your sweet treat of choice? Dark chocolate is basically a health food (iron + antioxidants) oh, and an antidepressant according to um, me, so make a dark chocolate mousse cake decorated with a candy corn or two. Or go get a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Therapy and laugh at people snarfing sweet tarts out of desperation.
- Red Wine and a Scary Movie. A glass of red wine has health benefits too and if you’re not up for going out, what a great night for a dark but funny movie. Pamper yourself with plenty of popcorn and snuggle in for a scare. My favorite is Zombieland because Bill Murry plays himself. Warm Bodies is a sweet zombie love story or settle in for the gripping series of True Blood. So many choices.
Most of all, be kind to yourself. The way you are feeling this year is temporary. If your dreams come true, by next year you’ll be unable to drink and sporting scary kankles or up to your wrists in dirty nappies, yikes. Trust the path you’re on will take you to where you need to go. You got this, Boo.