For most people, Mother’s Day is just another capitalist driven holiday when jewelry and flower business rake in extra dough. But for those of us struggling with infertility, it can feel like gasoline added to the fire. Tear jerking ads of adoring children honoring their precious mothers fill the airwaves and commercial spots. And our arms feel emptier.
But there’s another way to look at it. Take a moment to feel what an amazing mother you will be and let that joy wash over you. Then share some of that joy by honoring your own mother, if you’re lucky enough to still have one around, and your female friends and family.
Be honest about what you can handle. Don’t go to a brunch with your girlfriends and their newborn babies. But do go to a brunch with other childless women, Bloody Mary’s, and mothers who are escaping their families to hang out with you.
Pamper yourself the way you want to be pampered. Skip disappointment and get yourself flowers and chocolate. No one will ever know what you want the way you know what you want so cherish yourself.
Reach out and support your support group. Sometimes the people that play the role of mother in our lives are not our actual mothers. Show appreciation to your friends and family that you lean on every day. Just a phone call is enough. Gratitude is one of the universes’ hacks to happiness. The more gratitude you allow yourself to feel, the more joy spreads back to you. So use the day to share some love.
Women are amazing. And whether they are mothers yet or not, they usually do plenty of ‘mothering’ even if it’s not always appreciated. Plan something fun for the day so you stay busy such as a shopping excursion with your pals or planting a garden. And honor the women that you love starting with yourself.